Peer and Family Pressure to get Pregnant
Women world over who are of child bearing age are stressed due to the pressures from society and family questioning, cajoling, chiding and pushing them about parenting a child and starting a family. And not surprisingly, recent studies have revealed that Indian women are the most stressed of the lot.
We conducted a survey on 2731 women which revealed is what we already know in many ways:
Mother in law (56%)
Not surprisingly, women who were nearing 30 were very concerned about the situation and a lot of women stated that being part of a friend's circle all of whom were parents made them stresses out. Also, women post 30, revealed that pressure from husband was very real and some suggested that they had understanding husbands but still felt guilty. If you are feeling the pressure, we urge you to join Indian womens community forum at womens enclave.com - we are sure you will get all the support and help you need.
Pressure on men
We now have enough data to state with clarity that a lot of men seem to fail to perform when they know their partner is in the fertility window and expects them to perform. They seem to get under a lot of stress which causes their libido to plummet to a level where sex seems forced and unnatural. If this happens, it's obviously not good for the couple who are planning a child.
Ok, lets look at some popular reasons why inlaws pressurize the daugher in law for grandchildren:
The Often stated prime reason - they want the bloodline to continue and have the family name passed down to generations long after they are gone.
Grandchildren keeps them busy and give them a new reason to share care and be a part of raising a family yet again. We believe this is the number one reason.
Some believe that theur children not having children of their own reflects poorly on their upbringing.
Many of their neighbours, peers, relatives may have become grandparents and they see not becoming grandparents as being unfulfilled. Understandable, we think.
So how to handle this pressure? It is best to play cool. Assure them that you appreciate their concern and tell them that things will happen in due time. Tell them you and their son have given it some thought and will plan a baby sooner than later. If things get worse, be firm but polite - remember, they are likely to have the best interests - so handle the situation with tact and care. And while you are handling everything join a womens community forum - It can prove to be a tension buster.